I was somewhat new to the field of
mental health, and I certainly held judgments about how “I should” be able to
conduct myself as a competent therapist regardless of any personal issues that
I was experiencing. I was in denial about the fact that my ego and emotional
states could be just as fragile as those of my clients during times of turmoil.
At this time, I had just lost a close friend to suicide. He decided to hang
himself in my former garage after losing a long battle with depression. There
was an element of violence in the way that he chose to take his own life. While
I was fortunate enough to not have directly witnessed this horrific event, I
was very much a part of the aftermath: awaiting the arrival of police to the
scene, calling his loved ones to inform them, and searching through his house
for a suicide note and any information that could assuage the pain from the
many gut-wrenching questions that I was left with. Needless to say, this event
left a larger-than-life impact on me emotionally and psychologically.
While
I was attemptimg to recover from this loss, I worked at the therapy clinic with
several clients, including a 19 year-old female college student who was coping
with major depression and who was often preoccupied with suicidal thoughts.
Prior to my friend’s death, I would see my female client in session and I would
feel empathy towards her for her struggle with her moods. After my friend’s
death, I was so consumed with the details surrounding his suicide (i.e., “How could
this have happened?”, “Were there any signs?”,
“Could we have prevented this?”), that it became such a challenge just to be
present in session with this client. I would not ‘tune out’ as much with my
other clients during this time, but with this client, I would learn that her
own obsession with suicide was triggering me to disconnect from her
emotionally. The day that I realized that I needed to talk to my supervisor
about this (which I had avoided and which made me feel totally incompetent) was
the day when I went into the waiting room of the clinic to retrieve my client
for our session, and I walked up to notice her sketching a large picture of a noose
in her notebook.
I felt that my client was not in
danger of harming herself, as she would talk about suicide in a conceptual way,
stating that she “wonders what it would be like to not be here,” but that she
would be too afraid to end her life. She still had hope for herself and for her
future. Though her situation was not likely to end in suicide, I still became
emotionally unraveled following our sessions. When talking to my supervisor
about this, she was incredibly supportive and assured me that it did not make
me an incompetent clinician for not being sure if I could continue to work with
a client who triggered such visceral feelings for me. The alternative to
working with this client was to refer her to another therapist at the clinic,
which my stubborn brain would not have allowed me to easily do. A tug of war
ensued between my pride and my clinical judgment. After all, how could I help
this individual when I would feel overwhelmed in response to her feelings of
despair? It would not be fair to my client nor to myself. Between my clinical
supervisor, my own therapist, and myself, I made a promise to inform the clinic
if I felt that it was necessary to transfer my client.
I
began talking to my client in session about her suicidal ideation. We had
discussions about what would bring fulfillment into her life. She had always lacked
strong communication with her parents, so our treatment focused on restoring
integrity in her relationship with them (which seemed to be a major contributor
to her depression). As a month and several sessions passed, my grieving process
was in full force and while I still felt immense sadness, I found it to be more
manageable to work with this client, and I was not emotionally ‘checking out’
anymore. We had begun doing good work in our sessions with setting goals for
her to master proactive ways to handle disagreements with her parents. Things
didn’t feel like they were at a standstill anymore. It was a long road to
recovery, for my client and for me, but we were on our way.
A
great lesson that I learned through this experience was to be able to recognize
and gauge when I am becoming so emotionally involved in a case that it could
become counterproductive to the therapeutic work. I learned that it is
necessary for my pride to take a backseat to my psychological well-being,
otherwise my work as a clinician can be compromised. While working with this
client didn’t heal the emotional scars from my friend’s suicide, it allowed me
to witness the progress of an individual who overcame a deep depression. Even
though my client still struggled with her mood changes, she began enjoying life
and had motivation to live. In hindsight, I believe that helping this client restored
a sense of hope in me; this clinical case enabled me to provide the support
that I was unable to offer my dear friend.
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